How the 5-Wing Modifies Type 4
The 5-wing adds withdrawal and intellectualism. Regulates affect by retreating into introspection. Less performative, more raw authenticity. Shares inner world only with select few.
In Relationships
Strengths
- Profound emotional depth
- Raw authenticity
- Sacred intimacy with chosen
- Creative and unconventional
Challenges
- Easily overwhelmed by needs
- Phantom lover—present but distant
- Nihilistic tendencies
- Extreme sensitivity to criticism
Conflict Style
Disappears. Shuts down or becomes coldly analytical. Dissects partner's psyche to deflect.
Loving Style
Soulmate of the Mind seeker. Values silence, dark humor, shared artistic pursuits.
Attachment Style Tendency
Primary Tendency
Fearful-Avoidant
The Waverer
Secondary Tendency
Dismissive-Avoidant
The Island
Wing Effect on Attachment
5-wing creates 'double withdrawn' pattern. Craves connection but terrified of intrusion. Classic 'come here, go away' dynamic.
Fearful-Avoidant Attachment
Desires closeness but fears it deeply. Caught between wanting connection and fearing hurt. Often experienced as push-pull dynamics.
Core Belief: I want love but I will get hurt. People are both necessary and dangerous. I cannot trust but I cannot survive alone.
Strategy: Disorganized—oscillates between seeking closeness and pushing away. No consistent strategy for handling attachment needs.
Core Type
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