Sevens are extroverted, optimistic, versatile, and spontaneous. Playful, high-spirited, and practical, they can also misapply their many talents, becoming over-extended, scattered, and undisciplined. They constantly seek new and exciting experiences, but can become distracted and exhausted by staying on the go. They typically have problems with impatience and impulsiveness.
Core Fear
Being deprived, trapped in pain, or limited
Core Desire
To be satisfied and content
Motivation
To maintain freedom and happiness, to avoid missing out, to keep themselves excited and occupied
Strengths
- Brings joy and adventure
- Optimistic and uplifting
- Creative problem-solver
- Keeps the relationship exciting
- Resilient through challenges
Challenges
- Avoids difficult emotions
- Commitment feels like limitation
- Reframes problems instead of addressing them
- May seek stimulation outside relationship
- Difficulty being present
↓ Under Stress → Type 1
The Seven's usual optimism flips to criticism. Becomes perfectionistic, rigid, and judgmental. The reframe mechanism fails and they see all the flaws they usually avoid.
Warning Signs
- • Uncharacteristic criticism and perfectionism
- • Rigid expectations replacing flexibility
- • Lecturing rather than playing
- • Focus on flaws rather than possibilities
↑ In Growth → Type 5
The Seven moves from breadth to depth. Slows down and focuses. Accesses the Five's ability to be present with one thing. Develops sustained attention and accepts limitation.
What Partners Can Do
- • Appreciate when they slow down and focus
- • Create experiences of deep rather than many
- • Celebrate their sustained presence
- • Hold space for their difficult emotions
Primary
dismissive avoidant
Secondary
secure
Fears deep attachment will equate to entrapment in pain or boredom. Dismisses problems and avoids heavy emotions through reframing.
Healthy 7s commit fully and access Secure. Unhealthy 7s have many relationships but low intimacy, mentally leaving for next adventure.
Object Relations
Frustration Triad
Hornevian
Assertive (Moving Against)
Harmonic
Positive Outlook
Think you might be a Type 7?