Comfortable with intimacy and independence. Can depend on others and allow others to depend on them. Trusts that relationships are generally safe and rewarding.
Core Belief
I am worthy of love. Others are generally trustworthy and available. Relationships are safe.
Core Strategy
Balanced approach—seeks closeness when needed while maintaining healthy independence. Communicates needs directly.
Origin
Caregivers were consistently responsive, attuned, and available. Learned that needs will be met and relationships are safe.
Strengths
- Comfortable with both closeness and independence
- Communicates needs directly and clearly
- Regulates emotions effectively
- Trusts partner and the relationship
- Recovers quickly from conflicts
Challenges
- May not fully understand insecure partners
- Can become frustrated with avoidance or anxiety in others
- May take healthy relating for granted
- •Mutual respect and honesty
- •Consistent availability without clinginess
- •Space for individual growth
- •Direct communication
- •Steady, reliable presence
- •Emotional availability without drama
- •Trust and autonomy
- •Constructive conflict resolution
Conflict Behavior
Addresses issues directly and calmly. Seeks understanding and resolution. Can stay present during difficult conversations.
Intimacy Response
Welcomes closeness naturally. Comfortable being vulnerable and receiving vulnerability from others.
Already secure but can deepen by understanding insecure patterns and developing compassion for partners with different styles.
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