The Three Lenses
Reveals your core motivations—the underlying fears and desires that drive your behavior in relationships. The "why" behind your patterns.
Describes your connection blueprint—how you seek closeness, handle distance, and regulate emotions in intimate relationships.
Shows your communication style—how you naturally express love and what makes you feel most loved in return.
How They Connect
Your Enneagram type shapes which attachment style you're likely to develop and which love languages resonate most with you:
- • Heart types (2, 3, 4) often have attachment patterns tied to their self-worth and tend toward emotionally expressive love languages
- • Head types (5, 6, 7) may develop avoidant or anxious patterns based on their relationship with security and control
- • Body types (8, 9, 1) often express love through action and presence, with attachment patterns tied to autonomy and boundaries
Type-by-Type Insights
Likely Attachment
Dismissive-Avoidant
Ones often develop avoidant patterns due to early criticism. They learned to sel...
Primary Love Languages
Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation
Growth Path
Learning to accept imperfection, developing emotional flexibility, and believing they are lovable as...
Likely Attachment
Anxious-Preoccupied
Twos often develop anxious attachment from learning that love must be earned thr...
Primary Love Languages
Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch
Growth Path
Recognizing their own needs as valid, learning to receive without giving, and discovering they are l...
Likely Attachment
Dismissive-Avoidant
Threes often learn to suppress emotions in favor of achievement. They may strugg...
Primary Love Languages
Words of Affirmation, Quality Time
Growth Path
Slowing down to feel, risking vulnerability without performing, and discovering love doesn't depend ...
Likely Attachment
Anxious-Preoccupied
Fours often experienced emotional inconsistency. They may feel fundamentally fla...
Primary Love Languages
Quality Time, Words of Affirmation
Growth Path
Finding beauty in the ordinary, trusting that love doesn't require drama, and believing in their inh...
Likely Attachment
Dismissive-Avoidant
Fives learned early that emotional needs overwhelm resources. They protect thems...
Primary Love Languages
Quality Time, Acts of Service
Growth Path
Discovering that connection replenishes rather than depletes, sharing emotional needs, and trusting ...
Likely Attachment
Anxious-Preoccupied
Sixes experienced inconsistent safety and may constantly scan for threats in rel...
Primary Love Languages
Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service
Growth Path
Learning to trust themselves and their partner, finding security within, and tolerating uncertainty ...
Likely Attachment
Dismissive-Avoidant
Sevens learned to escape pain through stimulation. They may flee depth and commi...
Primary Love Languages
Quality Time, Physical Touch
Growth Path
Learning to stay present with discomfort, deepening rather than diversifying, and finding joy in com...
Likely Attachment
Dismissive-Avoidant
Eights learned early that vulnerability gets exploited. They protect their soft ...
Primary Love Languages
Physical Touch, Acts of Service
Growth Path
Learning that vulnerability is strength, allowing themselves to need, and trusting that softness won...
Likely Attachment
Secure
Nines often present as secure due to their accommodating nature, though they may...
Primary Love Languages
Quality Time, Physical Touch
Growth Path
Learning to assert their own presence, staying awake in the relationship, and believing their voice ...
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