How the 3-Wing Modifies Type 4
The 3-wing adds assertiveness and ambition. Assertive feeler who broadcasts suffering. Concerned with couple's perception. Channels emotions into creative success.
In Relationships
Strengths
- Passionate and romantic
- Creative expression of love
- High energy engagement
- Creates interesting partnership
Challenges
- Drama addiction
- Self-absorbed communication
- Jealous and competitive
- Tests relationship through conflict
Conflict Style
Reactive and vocal. Uses verbal fluidity to shame. Creates drama for reconciliation rush.
Loving Style
Romance as performance art. Wants passion, expensive gifts, attractive partner.
Attachment Style Tendency
Primary Tendency
Anxious-Preoccupied
The Pursuer
Secondary Tendency
Fearful-Avoidant
The Waverer
Wing Effect on Attachment
3-wing creates competitive anxiety. Needs constant validation of 'specialness.' Loud protest behaviors when feeling ignored.
Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment
Craves closeness and fears abandonment. Highly attuned to partner's moods and availability. May sacrifice own needs to maintain connection.
Core Belief: I am not enough on my own. I need others to feel complete. If I'm not vigilant, I will be abandoned.
Strategy: Hyper-activation—intensifies connection-seeking behaviors when threatened. Monitors partner closely for signs of withdrawal.
Core Type
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