How the 4-Wing Modifies Type 3
The 4-wing adds introspection and artistry. Less people-pleasing. Moody and selective. Views relationship as private respite. Shares dark, cynical side with partner.
In Relationships
Strengths
- Intellectual depth
- Sophisticated perspective
- Values unique connection
- Creates elite partnership
Challenges
- Emotional absenteeism
- Workaholic tendencies
- Moodiness and grandiosity cycles
- Refuses to admit problems
Conflict Style
Withdraws into cool silence. Becomes workaholic to prove worth. Less likely to apologize.
Loving Style
Power Mate or Muse seeker. Wants relationship reflecting sophistication. Less puppy-dog affection.
Attachment Style Tendency
Primary Tendency
Dismissive-Avoidant
The Island
Secondary Tendency
Fearful-Avoidant
The Waverer
Wing Effect on Attachment
4-wing adds emotional turbulence to 3's avoidance. Career takes precedence. Fear of intimacy revealing they are flawed and ordinary.
Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment
Values independence highly. Uncomfortable with too much closeness. May dismiss the importance of relationships while appearing self-sufficient.
Core Belief: I don't really need others. Depending on people leads to disappointment. I am complete on my own.
Strategy: Deactivation—minimizes attachment needs and pulls away when things get too close. Maintains emotional self-sufficiency.
Core Type
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