Achievement meets authenticity. Three admires Four's depth; Four admires Three's effectiveness.
- ✓Both value being special/unique
- ✓Four adds depth to Three's drive
- ✓Three motivates Four to act
- !Three's image vs. Four's authenticity
- !Four may see Three as shallow
- !Three may see Four as impractical
Four feels Three is inauthentic; Three feels Four is too dramatic. Emotional disconnect.
How Each Type Sees the Other
Initial Attraction
The Four's depth and authenticity; their refusal to be ordinary or superficial.
Core Perception
An intriguing creative who brings depth, but whose emotional intensity slows the Three down.
Trigger Points
- •The Four's dwelling on feelings
- •Being asked to slow down and feel
- •The Four's judgment of the Three's 'shallowness'
What They Appreciate
The Four's emotional courage and creative vision; their ability to access deeper truths.
Blind Spot
The Three's efficiency dismisses the Four's process; the Three doesn't see that depth takes time.
Initial Attraction
The Three's competence and ability to achieve; their success in the external world.
Core Perception
An impressive achiever who makes things happen, but whose superficiality feels soulless.
Trigger Points
- •The Three's image-focus over authenticity
- •Being rushed through feelings
- •The Three's dismissal of emotional depth
What They Appreciate
The Three's ability to execute and manifest; their capacity to bring ideas into reality.
Blind Spot
The Four's depth-seeking looks like self-indulgence to the Three; the Four doesn't see their own paralysis.
- →Three learns emotional depth
- →Four learns practical achievement
- →Both grow in authentic success
Three: Show your real feelings. Four: Appreciate Three's practical love.