About Mara Ellis
Mara writes for Attachagram about attachment theory, the Enneagram, and how patterns from childhood shape adult relationships. She draws on the foundational research of John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, the contemporary work of Amir Levine, Sue Johnson, and Stan Tatkin, and the Enneagram literature of Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson — translating clinical and academic ideas into language people can use in everyday relationships. Her work is editorial in nature; for clinical guidance, readers should consult a licensed therapist.
Articles by Mara Ellis (15)
Understand the push-pull dynamic of fearful avoidant attachment, its origins, and practical steps toward earned security.
Understand anxious attachment in relationships, its roots in inconsistent caregiving, and practical steps to build internal security.
Practical guide to healing avoidant attachment, how dismissive-avoidant patterns develop, and strategies for building deeper connections.
How to build secure attachment from anxious or avoidant patterns. Practical steps to move from insecure to earned secure attachment.
An honest, attachment-aware reading list for the twin flame journey — recognition, separation, the runner-chaser dynamic, and the psychology underneath.
An honest reading list on attachment styles, trauma bonding, limerence, and the slow work of changing your love patterns.
Understand the anxious-avoidant relationship cycle, why it forms, and how both partners can break free from the pursuit-withdrawal pattern.
Explore the dynamic relationship between Enneagram Type 4 and Type 8. Learn how the Individualist and Challenger build a passionate, intense bond.
Discover how Enneagram Type 2 and Type 8 create a powerful nurturing partnership. Learn the strengths and challenges of the Helper-Challenger bond.
Learn how Type 7 and Type 9 create a fun, positive relationship. Understand the strengths and hidden pitfalls of the Enthusiast-Peacemaker bond.
Understand the steady, principled relationship between Type 1 and Type 9. Learn how the Reformer and Peacemaker balance structure with harmony.
Explore the formidable bond between Type 5 and Type 8. Learn how the Investigator and Challenger build a relationship of mutual respect and autonomy.
Learn how Type 3 and Type 9 balance ambition with serenity. Discover the strengths and growth areas of the Achiever-Peacemaker relationship.
Explore the romantic, empathetic bond between Type 4 and Type 9. Learn how the Individualist and Peacemaker navigate intensity and tranquility together.
Discover the emotionally rich bond between Type 2 and Type 4. Learn how the Helper and Individualist navigate warmth, creativity, and shared vulnerability.